As summer winds down and the school year approaches, families face more than just supply lists and bus schedules—especially those navigating co-parenting after a separation or divorce.

The back-to-school season is a time of fresh starts, but it can also bring stress if communication and expectations between parents aren’t clear. From managing transitions between households to handling homework and extracurriculars, planning ahead can ease tensions and help your children thrive.

1. Start the School Year with a Co-Parenting Plan

School routines demand predictability, but for children with two homes, consistency can feel elusive. That’s why it’s crucial to revisit your parenting plan as the academic year begins.

Coordinate school drop-offs, pick-ups, and transportation between activities. Share school calendars, open house events, and teacher contacts in advance, and decide how you’ll communicate about report cards, discipline, or sick days.

Consider using shared tools like family calendars (Google Calendar, Our Family Wizard, or TalkingParents) to track everything in one place. Keeping everyone informed reduces misunderstandings and models collaboration for your child.

2. Navigating Extracurricular Activities as a Team

Whether it's soccer, band, or theater, extracurriculars can be a source of growth—but also conflict—when parents aren’t aligned. Who signs the permission slips? Who pays for gear or registration fees? Who drives to practices or attends the games?

If your parenting plan doesn’t already address extracurriculars, now is the time to create a framework. A well-thought-out agreement can specify how decisions will be made, how costs will be divided, and how time commitments will affect parenting schedules.

It’s also important to support your child’s interests without turning activities into a battleground. If possible, both parents should attend major performances or games—even if you sit apart. Children notice when both parents show up, and it reinforces that their world hasn’t completely fractured.

 3. Making Transitions Between Homes Easier on Kids

School-year transitions between two homes can be especially tough on children. They’re already juggling school responsibilities; adding backpacks full of clothes and shifting environments can cause anxiety. Parents can help by minimizing the disruption.

Keep school supplies, clothing, and hygiene items at both homes to limit packing. Create consistent morning and bedtime routines so children know what to expect regardless of where they are.

It’s also helpful to have a neutral, child-centered space—like a school drop-off—be the transition point between homes. This reduces the emotional pressure and avoids unnecessary conflict between parents.

Most importantly, keep the lines of communication open with your child. Ask them what’s working, what’s not, and how you can help them succeed during the school year.

Back-to-school season doesn’t have to be stressful. With clear communication, thoughtful planning, and a commitment to putting your child’s needs first, co-parents can set the tone for a year of emotional and academic success.